A Lifelong Romance

“Love yourself enough to never lower your standards for anyone.”

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It's past midnight here and there goes a moment of reflection that's meant for a nice write-up about life lately. This year, well not exactly as in January until now, nevertheless the length of time, I've learned so many things about love ever since.

I've learned that in order to love myself, I must behave in certain ways that I admire which means I should change for the sake of my own self, not for someone else out there. I should focus on loving myself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving me. Furthermore, the fact that someone else loves me doesn't rescue me from the project of loving myself.

I've learned to discover the reason of my existence and I've refused to settle for anyone who doesn't completely agree with it. I've learned that it's okay to follow my heart, but I should take my brain along the journey. They said we accept the love we think we deserve. I couldn't agree more with it. Rather than dating someone who treats me with less respect, kindness or empathy, I'd be happier single.

I've learned that it takes more than effort, patience, trust, communication, and appreciation to stay in love. Yet the hard truth: you'll never know what does it take to fall in love. I mean, there's simply no explanation. Ain't you just fall? It doesn't make sense.

I've learned to never demand anyone a closure because, I too, acknowledge they have the rights to remain silent. But I've learned to let go the people who don't give me closure. I deserve someone who will express their feeling with all honesty. After all, why would I commit myself to a person who doesn't respect me?

This past year has taught me to figure out the qualities I should be looking for in a man. Finally, I've learned that love isn't overrated, it's just the society who often gets it twisted.